What's a Meantime Girl? by anonymous

Shes the one you call when youre bored because shemakes you laugh. Shes the one you talk to when youre feeling downbecause shes willing to lend an ear and be a friend. Shes not the one youcall when you need a date to your companys Christmas party, or togo dancing with on a Saturday night. Shes the one youspend time with between girlfriends, before you find"The One". You know, the one who you keep around inthe meantime.Shes not one of the guys, not a tomboy, but you dontlook at her as a "real" woman, either. Shes not bitchy enough, moodyenough, or sexy enough to be seen in that light. Shes too laid-back,too easily amused by the same things your male buddies are amused by.Shes too understanding, too comfortable she doesnt make youfeel nervous or excited the way a "real" woman does.But shes cool, and nice, and funny, and attractiveenough that when youre lonely or horny and needintimate female companionship, shell do just fine.You dont have to wine and dine her because she knowsthe real you already, and you dont have any facadesto keep up, no pretenses to preserve. Youre nottrying to get anything of substance out of her. Shesnot easy, but you know that she cares about you and isattracted to you, and that shell give you theintimacy you need. And you know you dont have toexplain yourself or the situation, that shell be ableto cope with the fact that this isnt the beginning ofa relationship or that theres any possibility thatyou have any real romantic feelings for her. It wontbother her that youll get up in the morning, put onyour pants, say goodbye, and go on a date with thewoman youve been mooning over for weeks who finallyagreed to go out with you. Shell settle for a goodbyehug and a promise to call her and tell her how thedate went. Shes just so cool . . . why cant allwomen be like that?!But deep down, if you really think about it (which youprobably dont because to you, the situation between the two of youisnt important enough to merit any real thought), you know that itsreally not fair. You know that although she would never say it, it hurtsher to know that despite all her good points and all the fun you twohave, you dont think shes good enough to spend any real time with. Sure,its mostly her fault, because she doesnt have to give in to yourneeds she could play the hard-to-get bitch like the rest of them do, if shereally wanted to. But you and she both know that she probablycouldnt pull it off. Maybe shes too short, or a little overweight, or hasa big birthmark on her forehead, or works at Taco Bell. Whatever thereason, somehow life has given her a lot of really great qualities but hasleft out the ones that men want (or think they want) in a woman. So sheremains forever the funny friend, the steadfast companion, the secretlover, and you go on searching for your goddess who will somehow beeverything you ever wanted in a woman. Youll joke to her that she should be the best man atyour wedding, and shell laugh and make a joke about a smelly rentaltux. She doesnt captivate you with her beauty, or opendoors with her smile. Mainly she blends in with the crowd. Shessafe. She doesnt want to be the center of attentionand turn the heads of everyone in the room. But shewants to turn someones head. She wants to be specialto someone, too. We all do. She has feelings. She has a heart. In fact, sheprobably has a bigger and better heart than any woman youve ever knownbecause shes had a front-row seat to The Mess That IsYour Life, and she likes you anyway. She obviouslysees something worthwhile and redeeming in you becausealthough youve given her nothing, absolutely noreason to still be around, she is.Anyway, yeah. Im a Meantime Girl. Been one more timesthan I care to admit. I dont know the reason, really, and at thispoint I dont even care. I just want to let every guy know whos ever hadthe good fortune to have a Meantime Girl that we maybe a lot of fun, but we cry, too. A lot. And someday we wont be around.